Baby Van Beezly throws an emo Halloween at Nectar

Seattle's busiest party DJ brings her "I'm Not Okay!!" night to Nectar Lounge on Friday: pop punk, eyeliner and a room that knows every word.

Somebody is going to show up at Nectar Lounge on Friday dressed as the bassist from a band that broke up in 2008. Somebody else will scream the bridge of a song they haven't heard since high school. That's the whole point of "I'M NOT OKAY!!", the emo and pop-punk Halloween party DJ Baby Van Beezly brings to Nectar Lounge this Friday, October 30.

The basics from the venue's Tixr page: 9:30 p.m., Friday, at Nectar Lounge in Seattle. Nectar's calendar lists it as 21+. Halloween falls on Saturday this year, so Friday is the first big costume night of the weekend. A theme party at a room that holds a few hundred people tends to sell out before the door price matters, so buy ahead if you're set on going.

If you go out in Seattle, you've probably already danced to her. Her press kit calls her one of the city's go-to nightlife and private-event DJs, with 15+ years behind the decks and 250+ events a year. Seattle Gay News named her Best DJ in 2025. She lists residencies at Queer/Bar, High Dive and Nectar itself, and the Tixr history backs that up: earlier Nectar nights like "Club XCX w/ DJ Baby Van Beezly" carry her name in the title.

"I'm Not Okay" isn't a one-off costume gimmick. It's one of two recurring nights she runs, alongside Queens of Pop, and her site says pop punk and emo are part of her regular repertoire. That matters on a night like this. A theme party lives or dies on whether the DJ knows the deep cuts as well as the singalongs. She's built the night around that genre, not just a playlist pulled for a holiday.

A theme party lives or dies on whether the DJ knows the deep cuts as well as the singalongs.

There's no album to plug. Hers is a working DJ's career, and the "new release" is whatever mix she's posting on her site this month. Her site keeps a "New Mix" page for that. If you want to know what Friday might sound like, start there.

Nectar is a good match for this. The venue's calendar runs from live bands to themed dance parties, and themed dance parties have become a regular part of its schedule. Its Tixr page lists a string of them: Y2K Pride, a Lady Gaga dance night, a Mean Girls party. The crowd that comes to those knows the drill: show up in costume, show up early, and don't pretend you don't know the words.

She also has a résumé outside the club. Her site lists weddings and private events, past clients she names herself.

Wear the striped arm warmers. Dig out the studded belt. Friday at Nectar, everyone's allowed to not be okay for a few hours.

Sources: I'M NOT OKAY!! An Emo & Pop Punk Halloween Party!! w/ DJ BABY VAN BEEZLY - Tixr (Nectar Lounge) (tixr.com); Calendar - Nectar Lounge (nectarlounge.com); DJ Baby Van Beezly (babyvanbeezly.com); Press Kit - DJ Baby Van Beezly (babyvanbeezly.com); New Mix - DJ Baby Van Beezly (babyvanbeezly.com); Weddings - DJ Baby Van Beezly (babyvanbeezly.com); CLUB XCX w/ DJ Baby Van Beezly - Tixr (Nectar Lounge) (tixr.com); Y2K PRIDE - Tixr (Nectar Lounge) (tixr.com); DANCE ROMANCE Lady Gaga Night - Tixr (Nectar Lounge) (tixr.com); That's So Fetch Mean Girls Party - Tixr (Nectar Lounge) (tixr.com); Hidden Hall: No Longer A Seattle Secret - Pollstar (news.pollstar.com)